Are Attachments Bad?

Attachments Give Life Meaning!

In spiritual circles we often hear people say that “attachments are bad.”


“Attachments create suffering.”

These spiritually inclined people are right in the sense that attachments create suffering but they are wrong in saying that attachments are bad.

“Attachments not only lead to our greatest suffering, but they also lead to our greatest joy.” – Angus Baynham-McColl

The feeling of losing a hockey game is a shitty feeling, and losing can cause suffering which can be mild or severe suffering depending on how attached the player was to the game.

This feeling is thanks to attachment.

But the feeling of winning and grinning after a well played game would not be possible without attachment.

What is attachment?

It’s contains both love and fear.

Now in spiritual circles we are told love and fear are opposites, but they are actually 2 sides of the same coin.

Love is attachment.

Fear is also rooted in attachment.

Would you tell your son, “I love you, but I’m not attached?”

Of course not,

That would be ridiculous because loving another person is attachment.

And when you love another person you will also fear for them from time to time.

Parents who worry about their kids worry out of love.

Therefore fear is something that arises out of love, fear isn’t the opposite of love – it is a form of love expressed.

When you fear for your future it’s because you love your future. When you love your future it’s because you are attached.

If love is the true purpose of life like most spiritual teachers say, then it would stand to reason that attachment is actually a good thing because without attachment – love is not possible.

Attachment = Love = Fear

Attachment gives rise to love and fear.

The coin is attachment, and love and fear are the 2 sides!

So love strongly and fear strongly.

It’s both love and fear that give life a greater meaning.

Love your fear and fear for what you love!

And be attached!

Until next time,

The man,

Angus Baynham-McColl

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