“Whenever someone says they value me, it’s not because they actually value “me” or who I am – it’s because I represent to them – their own values.” – Angus
If someone hates me it’s not because they hate “me” – it’s because I represent something they hate about themselves.
If someone values me because I listen to them, what they really value is listening and they project that value onto me because they want to become a better listener themselves.
We become who we like.
We also become who we hate.
But what is love?
It’s only non-judgement.